Gay Wedding Vows

This is from a commitment ceremony held at the Metropolitan Community Church, a church which serves the gay community.

HOLY UNION
15 February 1985 Ron and Eric

INTRODUCTION

Friends, we are here this day to share with Eric and Ron a most important moment in their lives. They have learned to know and love each other and now they have decided to live their lives together.

SCRIPTURE READING
I Corinthians 13:4-13

Love is patient and kind, love is not jealous or boastful; it is not arrogant or rude. Love does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrong, but rejoices in the right. Love bears all things, believes all things, hope all things, endures all things. Love never ends; as for for prophecy, it will pass away; as for tongues, they will cease; as for knowledge, it will pass away. For our knowledge is imperfect and our prophecy is imperfect; but when the perfect comes, the imperfect will pass away. When I was a child, I spoke like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child; when I became a man, I gave up childish ways. For now we see in a mirror dimly, but then face to face. Now I know in part; then Ishall understand fully, even as I have been fully understood. So faith, hope love abide, these three; but the greatest of these is love.

REMINDER OF LOVE'S RESPONSIBILITY

All of us know that you are deeply in love. But beyond the warmth and glow, the excitement and romance, what is love, really? Real love is caring as much about the welfare and happiness of your partner as about your own. Real love is not possessive or jealous; it is liberating; it sets you free to become your best self. Real love is not total absorption in each other; it is looking outward in the same direction together. Love makes burdens lighter, because you divide them. It makes joys more intense because you share them. It makes you stronger, so that you can reach out and become involved with life in ways you dared not risk alone.

BETROTHAL VOWS

Ron, do you find within you a love that united you and Eric? (I DO).

Do you find within you the courage to resist the many deaths by which love can die? Are you willing to love Eric into his unique fullness, and to take the risk and the vulnerability of love again and again? (I WILL).

Eric, do you find within you a love that united you and Ron? (I DO).

Do you find within you the courage to resist the many deaths by which love can die? Are you willing to love Ron into his unique fullness, and to take the risk and the vulnerability of love again and again? (I WILL).

INTRODUCTION TO THE WEDDING VOWS

Eric and Ron, as you have affirmed your willingness to join together, I now invite you to make the promises of your covenant together.

THE WEDDING VOWS

Eric, I now join you to share all of life with you, its responsibilities and freedoms; its joys and sorrows, to love and care for you. As we continue to grow in our love for each other, I shall adore you and listen and speak the truth to you and seek to live each day as a gift of God, as long as we both shall live.

Ron, I now join you to share all of life with you, its responsibilities and freedoms; its joys and sorrows, to love and care for you. As we continue to grow in our love for each other, I shall adore you and listen and speak the truth to you and seek to live each day as a gift of God, as long as we both shall live.

THE GIVING OF RINGS

These rings are the symbol of the vows taken, a circle of wholeness; the perfect form. These rings mark the beginning of a long journey together filled with wonder, surprises, tears, laughter, celebrations, grief and joy. May these rings glow in reflection of the warmth and the life which flow through the wearers today.

"I give you this ring as I give you my love and faithfulness."

PRAYER OF THANKSGIVING AND BLESSING

Our Father, we rejoice with Eric and Ron. We thank you for their families and friends who have helped to shape their lives. We thank you for the opportunities and events which challenge them to their life's work. We thank you for their ever-deepening relationship and their decision to share the future together. We pray that we may be responsible witnesses to them enabling them to share their lives for the sake of all people.

BENEDICTION/BLESSING

Go into the world and fulfill your lives. Hold fast to your ideals. Give one another new experiences of joy. Challenge one another that you might grow together. May this love now sealed with your mutual covenant mature and enrich the experiences of you both. May your home be a happy one and your lives fulfilled. Amen.

© 2005 LINQ Communications

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